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But what if the man in the relationship is not fulfilling his own duties to his wife? Women are not meant to just be used as baby factories or housekeepers. They have feelings, emotions and sexual needs. So if you’re not connecting with your wife and she doesn’t seem to care, you should probably start to wonder who IS fulfilling her every desire.

Why do married women cheat?

There are several reasons why they cheat and one or many of these reasons could be the problem. And believe me, even though most men think sex is the most important thing in the relationship, women usually do not.  Assuming you’re looking for ways to get her back into your arms only, I’ve included a few suggestions to get your relationship back on track as well.

1. She craves personal attention and intimacy.
   Do you work too much? Are you traveling all the time? Do you hang out with the boys or your TV more often than your wife? Why don’t you arrange for some one-on-one time where you can enjoy a nice dinner, a movie, take a walk or do something that she loves to do. Start the day off with breakfast in bed if you can’t spend the whole day with her and leave notes for her to find the rest of the day. A little effort will go a long way. Women often need intimacy (not sex but tender kisses, cuddling, comforting, etc) to feel the relationship is going smoothly.  They also want to connect with you emotionally so if you’ve built up walls to keep her out, you’re either going to need to break those down soon or realize you’re headed for divorce.
2. She wants to prove something–to you or herself.
   Maybe she’s recently become a mother, lost a job, a loved one or something else major has changed in her life. Sometimes a little validation sex seems like just the right way to prove to yourself that you’re still desirable and sexy. It can be difficult to satisfy the woman who has something to prove, but you can start by showing her how much you appreciate her and all that she does. Be sure to acknowledge the changes going on and be there for her to talk to if she needs someone. If she knows your opinions about her haven’t changed, she won’t need to turn to others for comfort or support.
3. She has low self-esteem.
   Although it may seem similar to having something to prove, low self-esteem is much more complex. Married women who cheat because of low self-esteem often cannot be stopped. They need to feel that they are attractive to others and the things you say and do may not be enough. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to make her feel secure and appreciated in the relationship. Pay her compliments, ask her questions about her day and what she is feeling, and don’t forget to pamper her every now and then.
4. You cheated on her or otherwise wronged her.
   You made the first wrong move and now she’s looking for payback. The trust in the relationship has been broken and you may never get it back. She’s feeling wounded and betrayed and you’re going to have to fight hard to SHOW her that you still care. Telling her every day that you love her isn’t going to mean much when you’ve lied and cheated to her already.
5. She’s gotten bored with the usual or is thinking about calling it quits.
   Yes most people still do it in the missionary position but does it have to be the same every time? Learn some new techniques, buy some Liberator wedges to enhance things, try other toys or accessories. Or maybe just start by sweeping her off her feet for a romantic weekend alone–a change of scenery can often get things fired up again. Unfortunately, if she’s getting bored she may also be thinking about ending your relationship. Cheating is an easy way to call it quits without having to make explanations.
6. She’s just an all out freak.
   If your wife is looking for a walk on the wild side, she may be too intimidated to talk to you about it. Perhaps she thinks you won’t love her anymore or will think she’s dirty. Just make sure that you keep the lines of communication open with her. If you suspect she’s holding back the freak, maybe you can visit a porn store together and she’ll reveal some of her desires to you there. Don’t expect her to come clean all at once but even if you can get her to open up a little you can keep her in your bed (or office if she likes that instead!)

In the end, married women who cheat are usually just looking for some attention. Respect, love, communicate with and try to understand her throughout your relationship. A marriage takes work and lots of openness about feelings from both sides. If you can’t manage to get your feelings out there yourselves, you may need to seek some professional help.Similar Posts:

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While there is quite a few legitimate reasons for choosing to live in a sexless marriage, religion or medical reasons for example, the majority of sexless marriages are not voluntary.

Here are 5 little tips on how to avoid the life long dry spell:

1. Be a Couple First
   It doesn’t matter what annoyances life throws at you, view yourself as a couple first. Remember when you first started dating and couldn’t spend enough time with each other? Just because it has been 5, 10 or even 50 years always view yourself as a couple. Losing connection in your every day life is a good way to lose the connection in the bedroom too.
2. Talk about something other than Kids & Money
   Yes, those are important subjects and the bedroom is often the only chance when you and your partner can talk openly about both of them. The problem with that is that it’s pretty hard to get into a romantic mood after discussing little Timmy’s F in English or that overdue credit card bill. The bedroom should be a sanctuary from the stress of the every day world.
3. Turn off the TV
   Did you know that an Italian study found that couples who had a TV in their bedroom had sex less than half as much as those couples without one. Watching TV is a very effective way of staying up way too late to have sex. If you are like most people you already don’t get enough sleep, so sex is something that often gets cut in order to catch a few more zzzzz’s.
4. Don’t let yourself go
   Yes it’s comfortable to wedge out in sweat pants or go for grungy granny panties (complete with stretched elastic), but it most likely won’t arouse your partner. It’s ok to be comfortable around your partner but looking like a lazy slob most likely isn’t the best way. Exercise (it will help every other area of your life too), dress in decent clothes and have a good grooming routine.
5. Change things up
   Over time things can get into a routine where you know exactly what your partner wants and needs to reach climax with minimal effort. Not straying from the norm is a good way to get the well to dry out. In order to keep things interesting over the long run make sure you continuously keep things interesting. Throwing in a little new, such as having sex at an unusual time, unusual place or a technique you have never tried can be a cherry on top of a plain vanilla sundae.

This is just a little sampling of things you can do to avoid a sexless marriage. You can find more information on that subject by downloading my FREE E-Course “10 Weeks to Supercharge you Love Life” here.Similar Posts:

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Our first date – which took place at a TGI Friday’s across from campus spontaneously (5 minutes after we met to be precise) – most definitely was not a typical one. Contrary to every dating expert’s advice we tried to top each other for stories about past lovers that have exhibited bizarre behaviors. Most books on dating or relationship coaches will advise you that that subject is sure to be a date killer. For us, these stories had tears of laughter streaming from our eyes by the time we had finished dinner. We decided to continue our date when dinner was finished – not wanting to end the fun just yet and decided to head to a bar for a drink. That drink turned into a 3 hour conversation. A long walk finished. Our “early dinner” turned into a 6 hours date. I had to write a paper that night (due the next day. Yes, I have always been a procrastinator) and briefly considered cutting the date short after dinner, that would have been a huge mistake – lesson to yourself, never let time pressure stand in the way of what could be a first date with your soul mate.

After a brief kiss goodnight – nothing more – I remember getting into my car knowing that this would be the girl I would be marrying. I saw it so clearly in my mind it was unbelievable.

After only 3 months of dating we where engaged to be married and 13 months later we finally tied the knot. Most of our friends and even family thought we where crazy, especially since both of us had considered a long weekend away with somebody a long term relationship before meeting each other.

Ten years have passed and we now have a beautiful 18 month old daughter. There have been ups and downs, moves halfway around the world and the inevitable fights and disagreements every couple sees. But it all has pulled us closer together and made our love grow and flourish every day.

One of the questions I receive most often from my clients is how to keep a relationship fresh – or better put, the romance alive. I won’t lie to you, it is easy to settle into a routine and just go with the flow. However, I believe if you are crazy about each other there is no reason why you need to settle into routine.

I came across a fantastic interview on a blog called F*cking in Brooklyn yesterday. The article is actually what prompted me to write this post, since I normally don’t focus on my personal relationship much here. The interview was with a mystery rockstar “Mr X” and his wife “Mrs X” discussing their love and sexuality after years of marriage and having a child. Their view on love and sexuality is inspiring and almost mirrored to a T what I have always thought about my relationship with my wife. Marriage doesn’t have to mean the end of romance and excitement. In fact, it can be the beginning of a new appreciation of sexuality and intimacy that must be experienced.

I most certainly wasn’t abstinent before I met my wife and she has also compiled a very impressive roster of hook-ups over the years. Monogamy definitely wasn’t the first thing that was on our minds back in the day. But looking back over these past 10 years I could not imagine a hotter sex life and am grateful for having experienced these moments of bliss with someone who else who truly enjoys sex.

Being married to a person that enjoys sexuality and all it has to offer allows you to even further expand your horizons. We have experienced (and continue to) a lot of things related to sex. If you are sharing these experiences with somebody makes it even more meaningful.

Allegra, thank you very much for these past 10 years. I am looking forward to growing old with you – you are truly my one, my only, my everything.Similar Posts:

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The field of erotic hypnosis is very broad. It could range from something simple, such as small improvements in the way you perceive sexual pleasure all the way to full on role play situations.

Here are 5 reasons why I love playing with erotic hypnosis:

1. Erotic Dreams – Guided imagery can be used to induce dreams that feel so vivid and real you may actually think they are happening to you in real life. Not seldom orgasm can be reached easily throug guided imagery, even if your lover is only connected to you through a video chat.
2. Improving Yourself – Hypnosis is a powerful tool in improving us both mentally and physically. You can use it to change the way you feel about sex or increase your pleasure. Oftentimes long standing moral or religious values are holding us back from enjoying a healthy sex life. Erotic Hypnosis can help.
3. Role Play on Steroids – Imagine living out your fantasy of having passionate sex with a secret crush or favorite movie star. Erotic Hypnosis can give the impression that are doing that – even if the sex is with your regular sex partner. Of course you should use discretion and not cross your partner’s level of complying with your wishes. Requesting of her to see her as high class escort might be one thing; asking her to pretend and be seen of someone she could become jealous of is another.
4. Have fun with Sex – Erotic Hypnosis lets you re-route physical sensations. What I mean by this is for example: One could use hypnosis to make a touch to the elbow, or perhaps even an obscure trigger word, feel like a tongue moving across her clitoris. There is no end to the fun you can have with that. Be sure you do not overdo it though! Your subject will be truly at your mercy.
5. Ultimate Bondage – For a little more hardcore BDSM fun, you can use hypnosis to immobilize your subjects. Leave the rope at home, using erotic hypnosis your sub will be your personal mannequin.

As you can see, there are a lot of possibilities when it comes to Erotic hypnosis. The fun doesn’t end there though – there literally is no end to what can be achieved in the mind. As they say, the brain is the biggest sexual organ of all.

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Gentlemen, I know we are simple creatures for the most part – but women are a bit more complex then that. For a woman the largest part of sex happens in the brain. The most common reason for a woman not to climax is that she isn’t relaxed enough.  Here are 5 ideas to really blow her mind in bed that are sexy, sensual and perhaps a bit kinky.

1. Tease Her and Please Her

This one is a favorite in our household and it doesn’t need a lot of accessories. The object of the game is to focus all your attention on her. Go very slow and take care to tease her. If she gets close to climax switch things up. Likewise if you reach a point where you might blow your load. You can drag this out as long as you want to, the longer the better.

2. Fun with Food

This one is fun, although it can be a bit messy. The fridge holds a lot of things that can inspire sensual lovemaking. Get wild with whipped cream, ice cubes or re-purpose veggies like cucumbers or corn. Please make sure you use a condom over anything you insert into her vagina – yest infection isn’t fun. A very sensual touch is to feed her some fruit. Take pieces of fruit and put them in the refrigerator until they are nice and cold. Blindfold your lady and let her have fun with the taste and texture.

3. Get Naked – No, not all the way

Every girl has a pair of panties that make her feel really sexy. When you are undressing her keep her panties on. Depending on the fabric it will make your touch have a different feeling. Cotton and especially micro-fiber allow your fingers to trace gently and smoothly over her mound and lips. If she is wearing lacy lingerie it will have a different feeling for her yet again. Don’t be afraid to give her a little bit of a tongue lashing through the fabric of her panties. For the finishing touch, if the panties are small enough just moved them aside. Being taken while still wearing your panties – there is the psychological aspect of being naughty.

4. Get to know your house

Whenever my wife and I have moved into a new home – which over the past decade since we have know each other has been 5 – we try to “break in” every room of the house. Think about your place and each room together and make a list of places you have “done it”. You’ll quickly get an idea which room sounds good to you. Lead the way and get creative. A change of scenery can be very good for a woman’s mind.

5. The Godess Treatment – Advanced Fun

This is actually an advanced version of the first idea on the list. It just takes it to a WHOLE different level of excitement. Just like in ideas No 1, the object is to focus on her pleasure and slowly build her up to the point of climax. This version requires a bit more equipment. Think of things such as blindfolds, perhaps some silk scarves and some other things to “take her senses away”. The human body has a lot of receptors to keep us aware of the outside world. If you remove a sense (such as applying a blindfold) the other senses are turned up higher. Headphones with soft music – perhaps an almost hypnotic trance – can take away the sense of hearing, restraining her hands softly her sense of touch. At this point the only thing she can sense is smell (perhaps some scented candles in the room will take care of that) and her nerve endings in her skin. Have fun teasing her ever so slowly.

Do you have any favorites in your household you like to employ when the “same old” just won’t scratch the itch? Let me know…..Similar Posts:

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10 Questions for Him

1. Have you ever had fun with food in the bedroom?
2. What part of sex do you like best?
3. Who was your first? Describe your first time
4. What is your favorite part of a woman?
5. What is the wildest night you ever had?
6. What is your biggest sexual fantasy?
7. What would you do to me right now?
8. What’s your favorite place to have sex?
9. What’s the naughtiest thought you ever had about me?
10. Did somebody ever give you a sexy nickname? How did you  earn it?

10 Questions to ask her:

1. Where is your favorite place to be kissed?
2. Do you like the lights on or off during sex?
3. What’s your favorite thing to do during sex?
4. Do you have any kinky fantasies?
5. What kind of lingerie do you like best?
6. Who was your first and how did it go?
7. Do you ever enjoy using sex toys?
8. What was your most memorable sexual experience?
9. Have you ever been with or fantasized about being with another woman?
10. Do you like sex rough or soft?

5 Highly Intimate Questions – beware, only ask these if you can handle the answer:

1. Have you ever cheated on a partner? How did it happen?
2. How many people have you been with?
3. Have you ever been with more than one person at the same time?
4. Have you ever had a one night stand? Describe it!
5. Can we skip these questions and just have sex?

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Before I start, there is a long standing myth about swallowing semen. To clear it up once and for all: Swallowing semen does not make you fat. As a matter of fact, semen although it has some nutritional value only has 5-7 calories per teaspoon. So go ahead and enjoy, it won’t bust your scale. Semen consists of roughly 99% Water with a little Sugar, Protein, Enzymes and Zinc. It most certainly won’t replace a good meal. Semen has been shown however to be good against depression.

Now to the fun part – learning to enjoy to swallow semen. It’s really not that difficult to do. In my practice women who seek my help for learning this respond very positively to hypnosis.  You can achieve similar effects through self hypnosis or affirmations. It really isn’t all too difficult if you know what is stopping you from swallowing semen.

Disgust – The foremost reason for being hesitant of swallowing seemen is digust. You might dislike the taste or the texture. It altogether might not be appetizing to you. Perception of tase is very easily influenced by your brain. If you believe something will be disgusting, when you ingest it it will be. State of mind is a very important thing. Try to take a few minutes to practice self hypnosis and tell yourself how much you love the semen in your mouth. Imagine the rush it gives you to perform such an intimate act with your lover. Take some time really trying to visualize what a wonderful event it will be. Repeat as necessary.

You can help self hypnosis with positive affirmations. Put a little reminder in your pocket and every time you touch it think of how wonderful you feel drinking semen. Especially during the blow job think about how great his semen will feel in your mouth. Imagine it right and it will even be a major turn on for you.

Fear – Some women are afraid of allowing their partners semen in their mouth out of fear. Fear of gagging or perhaps the feeling of being drowned. Rest assured, there should not be much more than 1-2 teaspoons. You easily swallow more than that taking a gulp from a water bottle. The other thing is the sudden gush of semen that worries woman. Here you can do some relaxing exercises as well. Try some some self hypnosis where you reassure yourself of the perfect fun of swallowing semen.

There might of course be other objections to swallowing semen, such as moral concerns. These you must sort out with yourself. Self hypnosis works great, but it shouldn’t override your moral boundaries.

Just remember, the way you perceive a certain situation is all in your head. You should keep a positive mind and look forward to the act of swallowing semen. If you can do this, nothing stands in your way! Make sure you have something to drink after you fun is over – it helps to get a bit of the after taste out.

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One of these recipes includes raw eggs, so be sure to prepare it right before being applied as there is always a risk of salmonella when dealing with raw eggs.

Recipe 1: The Simplest of All

Take about 8oz of water and add two tablespoons of flower. You might need to experiment with the flour a bit. Remember, you can always add more but you can’t take any out. Blend until there is no more lumps. The mixutre should look like a cup of milk now. Bring to a boil and simmer on the stove stirring constantly until you reach the desired consistency. Definitely let cool before application.

Recipe 2: The Most Realistic One

This recipe includes raw egg whites. If you are concerned about salmonella you should not swallow it or you could use pasteurized eggwhites in a carton. However the consistency will be better if you use fresh eggs. Always make fresh and never save the left overs.

1 cup water

2 tablespoons cornstarch

1 raw egg white

1 tablespoon plain yogurt

pinch of salt

Dissolve cornstarch in 1/4cup of water and set aside. Bring the remaining water and a pinch of salt to a simmer in a small saucepan, then stir the cornstarch to redissolve it and stir it in. Simmer and stir the mixture for about two minutes, it will be very thick. Cool the mixture thoroughly. If you don’t let it cool the egg will get cooked. If you are impatient, set the pan in a bowl of ice and stir to speed the cooling. When cool, stir in the egg white and yogurt. Mix thoroughly with a whisk until syou get a smooth consistency. The liquid will have a neutral flavor. If you want to pep this up yyou can add a few drops of vanilla extract and some Equal or Splenda for sweetness when you add the egg.

Recipe 3:  The Exotic One

In your local Asian Food Store you will likely find a spice called “Arrowroot”. If you are lucky you can find it in the spice rack at your local supermarket. Asian cooks mix it with water to make a clear thickener. If you let it simmer down enough you end up with a mixture that looks like very realistic semen.

Of course, now you have to apply all this fake semen. After it’s cooled you can either you a turkey baster or a squeeze type bottle. Like for honey or Ketchup. There are also toys on the market that can be filled with fake semen for an even more realistic effect. Just make sure the artificial semen has a realistic temperature. Keep it as close as possible to body temperature for the most realistic effect.

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What makes a good kiss is debatable – some like it more forceful, others more gently. Regardless of your flavor there are a few things you can do to make your partner go weak in the knees.Pucker up, here are 5 tips on kissing that you shouldn’t miss.

1. Keep it Silky Smooth: That goes for your lips and if you’re a guy your face. A three day stuble may be sexy, but it can be quite irritating to your girl’s face. Pick up a razor before you head out on that date! But back to the most important part of all – the point of contact. The Lips.

   Nobody likes leaning in for that perfect kiss and meet sandpaper. Chapped Lips happen – whether from windburn out on the slopes or simply drying out in the low humidity of winter. A good lip balm can help you keep your lips silky smooth and kissable. One home remedy is a bit of olive oil rubbed on the lips.

2. Mind your Breath: Nothing is a bigger turn off than dragon breath. Make sure you practice good oral hygiene before your date (a good brushing and mouthwash) and keep a few mints handy. Don’t pick mints that are too strong – a strong mint smell makes it look like you’re trying to hide something.

   If your date takes you to a restaurant stay away from things that cause bad breath (garlic, cigarettes, alcohol) unless your date has them too. If you both enjoy the garlic supreme special you will cancel each other out.

3. Start it slow: There are certainly times to plant a big fat kiss on somebody’s lips, but those are seldom of the romantic type. Start of slow, with just a little lingering peck. Follow it up with another lingering with your lips just a bit a part. Move slowly forward from there.

   Biting is a No No – but a nibble is OK. You can always spice things up a little bit with a light nibble, but please be careful. Nothing stops a kiss quicker than a puncture wound in the lip.

4. Let your Tongue explore. A slang term for making out is “tonsil hockey” that really puts into words what a bad kiss is. Let your tongue do some gentle exploring, but refrain from sticking it too far. That is a really weird feeling which not many people like.

   Likewise, don’t go flailing around wit your tongue like it’s a punch drunk boxer. Gentle exploration is key. You can turn it up a notch as things steam up. But never – I repeat never go for the propeller tongue action.

5. Watch your hands! The beauty of a kiss lies in its innocence. The action occurs far removed from your sex organs, but it can build the sexual tension like few other things. Don’t mess it up by coping a feel – keep the innocents alive and the simple kiss can be a fantastic part of foreplay.Even if the kiss is part of foreplay refrain from too much touching in the beginning.

   A good way of using your hands during kissing comes mainly in two ways – 1) Steady your partner 2) Caress your partner. Steadying them includes a hand on the small of the back to give support in a standing up kiss. Another great spot is cradling the back of their head. As far as caressing goes, remember what I said earlier: No groping. A little bit of caressing of the back, arms or sides works great. Try this if you really want to steam things up – lightly caress their cheek with a lingering touch. Enjoy!

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